Did your mother ever tell you “If it doesn’t bother you they’ll quit doing it”? I think that’s a fairly common bit of parental wisdom. And it’s probably true – most of the fun of picking on someone is seeing their reaction. So even from childhood we’re taught that there is a great advantage in being able to control our reactions. In fact, I would say that’s a useful skill no matter how old you are. The Bible says: “A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult” (Proverbs 12:16). Let’s think this through. We can’t control what people think. We can’t control what people say. But we CAN control how we react. And we SHOULD control how we react.

Published May 22, 2016 by LPCOC in Bulletin

Did your mother ever tell you “If it doesn’t bother you they’ll quit doing it”? I think that’s a fairly common bit of parental wisdom. And it’s probably true – most of the fun of picking on someone is seeing their reaction. So even from childhood we’re taught that there is a great advantage in being able to control our reactions. In fact, I would say that’s a useful skill no matter how old you are. The Bible says: “A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult” (Proverbs 12:16). Let’s think this through. We can’t control what people think. We can’t control what people say. But we CAN control how we react. And we SHOULD control how we react.

I am convinced that there will always be someone in our lives who just never learned to be polite. (If you think I’m talking about you right now I suggest reflecting on Ephesians 4:29). Perhaps God puts difficult people in our lives for a couple of reasons. For one, it may be that your good example could turn that person’s life around. You might be able to teach someone how to better love others. And that would be wonderful! But maybe another reason that challenging person is around is to teach you patience and self-control. Do you have the humility and forgiveness to overlook it when someone offends you (accidentally OR intentionally)? That is a skill God wants us all to learn. It’s easy to love those who are easy to love. Christians are called to love everyone. Christians are to “Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another” (Colossians 3:13).

What is the point of getting all worked up over what someone said or did? Does that help anything? I encourage you to get “all worked up” over what Jesus did. He forgave all the ways our sin offended Him and He died on a cross so we could be forgiven. Instead of being annoyed with us Jesus overlooked our insults. What a great example is He!

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